“It takes two to speak the truth . . .
One to speak and another to hear.”
– Henry David Thoreau
“Everybody has the right to express what he thinks.
That, of course, lets the crackpot in.
But if you cannot tell a crackpot when you see one,
Then you ought to be taken in.”
– Harry S. Truman
It is critical to separate feelings from facts. Boring, I know, but it is necessary.
Something considered to be true is more often than not subjective, not objective. A truism in one world can be vastly different in another. In other words, truth has an element of perspective. People lose sight of this all too easily.
We all walk a fine line of acknowledging the truth in what we feel. Feelings are legitimate. It is your world. It is what you know. And your feelings matter. But, that isn’t always the “way things are” to others.
Not separating the facts out from feelings is a relationship buster. It propels misunderstandings, miscommunications, and mix-ups. Ask yourself, when one is sanctimonious, victimized, angry, or joyful, what has taken place? It is a reaction to a feeling and taking that feeling as a fact.
My feelings are my truth. Your feelings are your truth. But they aren’t the whole truth, just a personal partisan shade of it.
When we take what we feel to the point where we fault, accuse, deny, disparage, or judge, let’s start over by laying out the facts and separating them from our feelings. Therein lays the truth.
Something considered to be true is more often than not subjective, not objective. A truism in one world can be vastly different in another. In other words, truth has an element of perspective. People lose sight of this all too easily.
We all walk a fine line of acknowledging the truth in what we feel. Feelings are legitimate. It is your world. It is what you know. And your feelings matter. But, that isn’t always the “way things are” to others.
Not separating the facts out from feelings is a relationship buster. It propels misunderstandings, miscommunications, and mix-ups. Ask yourself, when one is sanctimonious, victimized, angry, or joyful, what has taken place? It is a reaction to a feeling and taking that feeling as a fact.
My feelings are my truth. Your feelings are your truth. But they aren’t the whole truth, just a personal partisan shade of it.
When we take what we feel to the point where we fault, accuse, deny, disparage, or judge, let’s start over by laying out the facts and separating them from our feelings. Therein lays the truth.
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